Thursday, April 17, 2014

Fit for a Princess: Under a Full Moon

Bridge Over Troubled Waters

The month is over half done, which means we're nearing the end of the first Fit for a Princess Event - and the theme for next month has already been announced: Floral. I'm looking forward to seeing things made more around a theme, rather than the grab bag which was the first month. This is my first time of doing an event of this scale, and I have to admit I really loved it - the opportunity to try new things, to try a lot of different outfits and hair, and to try to present what at first blush seems like a singular idea in a variety of ways was really fun. The sheer volume of things was both exciting and a little overwhelming, though I think I did a pretty good job of covering most of my bases - and my stores. It was interesting to try to keep up the pace of a post a day for a while; I managed fifteen days before I stared into this box and simply didn't have anything to say at all, or any pictures to show. The featured item for this look is this gorgeous gown from Kouse's Sanctum; she has largely shifted over to jewelry - now and then she wows us with something bigger, though, and I'm really glad she did. This dress features a low cut bodice and layered skirt - a style of dress seen in a few different textures, but gleaming and glowing in the moonlight. The one flaw to the gown is the leg rigging; the dress is rigged to the waist and hips, but not at all to the legs, which means it floats wide for most poses but can move awkwardly with an AO. I adore it despite this, though, especially with these amazing textures.

Slow Dance

My hair is from Tableau Vivant, and was sold at the Cutie Moon Faire and isn't currently available at the mainstore, but it is gorgeous and fun and the stock there definitely deserves a second look. The hair and the head fluffy bits were sold separately, and the fun thing is that you can mix and match the hair ring things and the longer, elegant base hair. I ended up picking up a couple of different color combinations, and they were all set up to match the various Sailor Scouts - an awesome, unique addition to any inspired look. The jewelry I'm wearing, including the tiara tucked in between the headdress loops, is from Krystal, which is the jewelry brand for Kouse's Sanctum. It's color changing on touch, which offers a lot of options, and it comes in silver or gold base. It's also available at Fit for a Princess, and it goes perfectly with the gowns she released. Keeping to the same clear, pastel shades as the gown, I added a set of nails from A:S:S which have a lovely tiara edge to the colors. I added in a very simple lip to finish the whole look - one of the many shines from Mock which I have the pleasure to have in my inventory. It has a sparkly edge to it which stands out despite only being the texture. The eyeshadow is from MiaSnow and looked a lot brighter on the ad. I was very glad to try it on and see how clean and simple the colors are in it, and how it added to the shine of my whole look.

On the Shore

( More pictures here. )

Credits:

Skin: Izzie's, Irene
Hair: Tableau Vivant, Moon Hair (Cutie Moon Faire)
Headdress: Tableau Vivant, Moon Headdress (Cutie Moon Faire)
Ears: Illusions, Seelie Ears
Eyes: De La Soul, Rainbow
Eyelashes 1: SLink, Mesh Lashes
Eyelashes 2: Flugeln Brise, 05-A
Eyeshadow: MiaSnow, Blurr 3
Lipstick: Mock, Micare LipGlimmer
Wings: Deviance, Sidhe
Hands & Feet: SLink, Rigged Mesh Hands & Feet
Jewelry: Krystal, Purity Set
Nails: A:S:S, Tiara (Fit for a Princess)
Dress: Kouse's Sanctum, Anna Gown (Fit for a Princess)

Pose: Glitterati

Location: Kats Beach
Light Settings: Phototools, Moon Light 02
Water Settings: Mirror Water

Photographed by Deoridhe Quandry
Post processing: Cropping, only

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Tardy

Down the Stairs

Don't you hate it when you put together a look from an event, and then the event ends before you blog it?

Me too.

Blocking the Sun

( More pictures here. )

Credits: 

Skin: Izzie's, Irene
Hair: Underscore, Lana
Headdress: Naminoke, Sakura Head / Mouth
Crown: Epic, Sparkle Pop Queenie Crown
Flowers: Intrepid, Rose Halo
Ears: Illusions, Seelie Ears
Earrings: Naminoke, Sakura Pierce
Eyes: De La Soul, Rainbow
Eyelashes 1: SLink, Mesh Lashes
Eyelashes 2: Flugeln Brise, 05-A
Eyeshadow: Adore & Abhor, Princess Blossom
Wings: Deviance, Sidhe
Hands: SLink, Rigged Mesh Hands
Bracelet 1: Snugabugs, Chunky Bead
Bracelet 2: Intrepid, Wrapped Bracelet
Fan: Silvery K, Metallic Folding Fan
Nails: A:S:S, Royal
Dress: Sakide, Ailis Dress
Stockings: Izzie's, Heart Tights
Shoes: Reign, MaryJanes

Poses: Don't Freak Out

Location: Oubliette
Light Settings: Phototools, Dream Book Light
Water Settings: Mirror Water

Photographed by Deoridhe Quandry
Post processing: Cropping, only

Monday, April 14, 2014

Monday Meme: Flat Ebbe Linden

Flate Ebbe 1

Strawberry made us another flat CEO, this time of poor Ebbe Linden, who hasn't done anything which would deserve all of us carting him around the grid, and yet here he is. CEOs never get any respect in Second Life, huh? In any case, it took only a little while to download him and take him to my current favorite spot on the grid - Deo's grove - and then I had to think of three suggestions or things I'd like him to know. I actually made a Wants and Wishes post a while ago which had seven things I'd like to see changed, so this is a more general thing focusing on what I hope will give him an appreciation for the sections of Second Life I know. Anywhere you go as Ebbe Linden you're likely to be mobbed, so if you find a place you want to just linger in (ah, I wish World's End was still here for you to meet) I'd recommend taking an alt the second time. You can pass folders of landmarks to alts.
  1. Check out the art. Not just LEA, though their offerings are awesome, but also Immersiva and Split Screen and other art sims (Immersiva in particular is cutting edge in terms of reallly using all aspects of Second Life beautifully). Then take a flip through the destination guide. Whenever I can't find a place to take pictures, I'll flip through the offerings and try anything which seems appealing.You mentioned trying to figure out Second Life and our long time branding issue, and here is part of the problem - diversity beyond even reality. How do you brand that?

  2. Check out some blogs. If you actually make it to my blog (which seems unlikely, but who knows?), check out my blogrolls. I'm very fashion leaning, but it won't take long to get to a wide variety of stuff, and I recommend the Locations and Events lists in particular, and the personal blogs. The sheer variety of experience and expression is jaw dropping, from people who have all but abandoned SL but still circle around it like it's their dying flame, to people running pell-mell through everything SL has to offer.

  3. Check out some roleplaying sims. It's a huge, active population and a lot of land in Second Life, and it's one of the fairly odd niches which is easy to ignore, but an awful lot of people are engaged in a variety of different kinds of roleplaying, and the sims are often breath-takingly beautiful. The people also cover an enormous gamut, from amateur writers to people trying to fulfill offline needs online to people who want to remake themselves.
Also, welcome to our world. We hope you like it.

Flate Ebbe 2

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Mermaid Princess

Kelp Shadows

There was a lovely set of poses among the many princess things at Fit for a Princess, from Uncertain Smile. It's an enormous oyster shell, quite large, with a wide variety of poses set around it and it's enormous pearl creation. It also comes with a few lovely accessories for different poses - like the gorgeous mirror so I can admire my pretty face, and a lovely shell with pearls spilling forth from it. Each of the poses is interesting and unique, and the shell itself would make a lovely addition to an underwater tableau. I could have wished for a few more poses taking advantage of the outside, as well as the inside, of the shell - something leaning over the top, for example, or lying back and taking in the sights above, but the variety of poses otherwise is wonderful, including one swimming through the shell, and others in various states of repose from sitting to lying. Like all Uncertain Smile posts I've used, the poses themselves are smooth, realistic, and don't distort the standard avatar mesh, which is really fantastic - especially for over the head poses, where the shoulders can often become disjointed.

Catching Sight in the Mirror

I knew I wanted to do a whole mermaid look for it, but all of my mermaid accessories are pre-mesh, and didn't seem quite as fluid and seamless as I'd like. Luckily, however, Genre did a mermaid special and I was able to get a good assortment if mermaiding awesomeness to put together a new mermaid form. The hair first, from Souzou Eien, and is all but made for me - rainbows and shininess, with a fun fin and little tendrils off the sides of my head. This set the bar for a rather spare, colorful mermaid princess, so I added in Sax Shepherd Designs' new forehead jewel set, which has an incredible amount of individuality in terms of tinting them - four different sets of gems that can be tinted individually via a HUD and that look amazing. I love the curves over the brows and the enormous gem in the middle. With my head set up, I headed over to Genre to check out what was in the offering, and found awesome lipstick from Senzafine in a variety of watery colors. I also saw, and thus remembered, this amazing octopus necklace from Eclectica, with it's little tentacles curling around a pretty black rock. I really like the naturalistic style of this necklace,  how it looks like it has the weight and heft it should when it hands around my neck. In order to keep my modesty on top, I layered an old set of scales from Evie's Closet under a new set of rainbow gradient scales from Even Tide. The latter come in a whole set, many colors in addition to the rainbow I'm wearing. And finally, my gorgeous tail is from deviousMind and at the Genre event. I chose it because of the vivid layering of colors, and I fell in particular in love with the edges of the fins - how they curl and lace out at the edges.

Pearl Diving

( More pictures here. )

Credits: 

Skin: Izzie's, Irene
Hair: Souzou Eien, Dawn Child of Proteus (Genre)
Headdress: Sax Shepherd Designs, Devi Jewels
Ears: Illusions, Seelie Ears
Eyes: De La Soul, Rainbow
Eyelashes 1: SLink, Mesh Lashes
Eyelashes 2: Flugeln Brise, 05-A
Eyeshadow: Mock, Glitter Pop Eshadow
Lipstick: Senzafine, Sirene (Genre)
Necklace: Eclectica, Octopus
(Genre)
 Hands: SLink, Rigged Mesh Hands
Scales 1: Evie's Closet, Lumina Nymph
Scales 2: Even Tide, Gradient Mer Scales (Genre)
Nails: A:S:S, Royal
Mermaid Tail: deviousMind, Undine (Genre)

Pose: Uncertain Smile, Mermaid Princess (Fit for a Princess)

Location: Skyrah
Light Settings: Phototools, B/W Light 02
Water Settings: TOR, Ice-like

Photographed by Deoridhe Quandry
Post processing: Cropping, only

Saturday, April 12, 2014

Japan Faire: Kimono in the World

Halo

The Japan Faire is pretty awesome.

Sakura

( More pictures here. )

Credits: 

Skin: Izzie's, Irene
Hair: Argrace, Haruka
Headdress: *N*, Higanbana
Ears: Illusions, Seelie Ears
Eyes: De La Soul, Rainbow
Eyelashes 1: SLink, Mesh Lashes
Eyelashes 2: Flugeln Brise, 05-A
Eyeshadow: Mock, Glitter Pop Eshadow
Lipstick 1: Adore & Abhor, 13 Lips
Lipstick 2: Buzz, Gem Lips
Wings: Sax Shepherd Designs, Mesh Filigree Wings
Hands & Feet: SLink, Rigged Mesh Hands & Feet
Nails: A:S:S, Golden Threads
Jewelry: Sax Shepherd Designs, Portia Renaissance
Kimono: Silvery K, KimonoMesh
Shoes: r2, jf wedge

Pose: Grafica

Location: Bare Rose Mainstore
Light Settings:
Water Settings: Mirror Water

Photographed by Deoridhe Quandry
Post processing: Cropping, only

Friday, April 11, 2014

How NOT to be a Peer in Second Life

In Unison

So, several times now I've gotten a random, unsolicited invitation to a group called Suicide Dreams from an avatar named Adam01DaxterALT who has hidden himself from search to be more difficult to find. Based on it's description it's a support group for a narrow spectrum of people - something really for a narrow line of avatars, not random invites, and not something I was interested in becoming involved with.

"Suicide Dreams is a peer to peer advocacy daily support group for people who deal with suicidal thoughts. We hold daily meetings at 4pm SLT.

suicide, mental illness, health, bipolar, schizophrenia, schizoaffective, ocd, add, adhd, did, borderline, ptsd, autism, aspergers, depression, anxiety, panic, agoraphobia, disabled, self harm, transgender, abuse, trauma, stress
"

Not the kind of thing you'd think random strangers should be invited to - right?

I had ignored it the first (few?) times, but this time I decided I was really tired of getting the invite and was hoping to stop it. After a sincere amount of work to contact Mr. DaxterALT, I sent him an IM.

[18:46] Deoridhe Quandry: This is the Second Time you have invited me to your Suicide Dreams group unsolicited. Please do not invite me again.
[18:47] Adam01 Daxter (Adam01DaxterALT): fku
[18:47] Deoridhe Quandry: Wow, rude.


Now, like most people, I assumed that the group leader or a Peer Advocacy and Support Group would like to know that one of his members was not only inviting people unsolicitedly and randomly, but also know that such a person was rather abruptly rude, so I wrote a notecard.

Dear Mr. Xthislife:

One of the members of your Suicide Dreams group has invited me to join it - unsolicited and without speaking to me first - at least two times. I contacted him to politely ask him to cease doing so, and he responded with "fku". I would expect, given the purpose you say this group has, that you would not like your members to be insulting people so directly, and so I am letting you know what happened.

Sincerely,

Deoridhe Quandry


I got the following response:

[18:58] Xthislife: discardedand muted
[18:58] Xthislife: never read it


And then I was muted and blocked by him.

It's really amazing to me that a Peer Advocacy Group that advertises itself as a resource for people with a whole panoply of mental illnesses would be so incredibly, immediately, and unrepentantly rude to polite requests and responses. I really hope they aren't equally as rude to their members.

Locked Up / Breaking Free

( More pictures here. )

Thursday, April 10, 2014

Fit for a Princess: Interlude

Looking for a Place to Read

Some days, a girl just wants to take a break from tending dragons to read a good book... but where to go when the dragon flamed all the trees? Decisions, decisions.

Finding Fish

( More pictures here. )

Credits:

Skin: Izzie's, Irene
Hair: Truth, Rocky
Ears: Illusions, Seelie Ears
Eyes: De La Soul, Rainbow
Eyelashes 1: SLink, Mesh Lashes
Eyelashes 2: Flugeln Brise, 05-A
Eyeshadow: Mock, Glitter Pop
Wings: Favole, Cawthorn
Hands & Feet: SLink, Rigged Mesh Hands & Feet
Nails: A:S:S, Royal (Fit for a Princess)
Jewelry: Cae, Duchess (Fit for a Princess)
Dress: Fateplay, Dany
Book: Frogstar, LIAGBG (Fit for a Princess Gacha)
Cape: Fateplay, Dany (We <3 RP)
Shoes: Hopscotch, Dorothy (Fit for a Princess)

Poses: Flowey

Location: Twilight's Edge
Light Settings:
Water Settings: Mirror Water

Photographed by Deoridhe Quandry
Post processing: Cropping, only

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Cherry Blossom Princess

Stepping into the Courtyard

This has been a very eventful month already, and I've had such fun - but I'm feeling a little poor. The nice thing is, even if my pockets are empty, my inventory is full, and I had such a ball pulling together items from a few different events to make a fantastic, royal look. I also found a gorgeous new sim for pictures - Nagare - which has a wonderful, formal design with beautiful cherry blossom petals flying around like magic. I found myself quite entranced by them, and by the ever-present rain which is only barely visible in these pictures; it was soothing without being overwhelming. I'm seeking soothing a lot these days; life has been pretty hectic and upsetting, and so I dive deeper into the things I love - pretty clothing, taking pictures, and baking. The poses I used are all from Fit for a Princess, a royal set from Lalochezia which worked well with my gown - though sometimes the sleeves caught on themselves here and there. I'm really looking forward to see more poses from this store.

Lilies and Roses

Speaking of pretty clothes - this gown from Junebug is another of the Fit for a Princess event offerings, and I fell in love with it as soon as I saw it on the feeds - though picking a single color was really difficult. I love the poofy quality of it, something difficult to render in rigged mesh, and the layers of fabric. The ripples of fabric fall well even with different leg poses - in the top picture you can see how a lifted foot kicks the skirt up like a breeze is ruffling it without causing unnatural jaggedness in the fabric. The corset bends with motion well, as well, and I love that the sleeves are bell like but don't cover the wrist, allowing me to show off some bracelets. The texturing is also gorgeous; the lace of the bodice adds some texture to the whole look, and then is repeated in the sleeves only semi-transparent; having only a few spots of complicated texture really make them stand out. The seams are thick and rolled at the waist, and bands of velvet trip along the sides of the bodice; I find touches like this add to the verisimilitude of an outfit and make it seem more polished. I paired it with the sets of creamy lilies and roses from The Annex at We <2 RP which I simply couldn't resist. I tinted them more cream to match the gown, but otherwise they were completely perfect - especially when I found the bands of pearls of the headband framed the forehead braid of this hair from Wasabi Pills perfectly. I love it when two completely different stores release items which fit together as if they were made for each other - and this is definitely an example of that. I added a necklace and bracelets from League for that final bit of creamy pearl, and again it looks like it was all made for each other, and simply perfect. Given how much older the jewelry is than the rest of my look, it's really amazing how seamlessly it melds in to make the perfect princess glow. The final piece were these gorgeous wings from Una, which I've gotten a lot of use out of - I'm glad I played the gacha so much to get so many colors, though I wish I could have been able to buy a fatpack. They have a formal, elegant appearance which makes me a perfect, clockwork pearl princess.

Dreaming Dance

( More pictures here. )

Credits: 

Skin: Izzie's, Irene
Hair: Wasabi Pills, Stella
Flowers: The Annex, Purity of Spring (We <3 RP)
Ears: Illusions, Seelie Ears
Eyes: De La Soul, Rainbow
Eyelashes 1: SLink, Mesh Lashes
Eyelashes 2: Flugeln Brise, 05-A
Eyeshadow: Adore & Abhor, Princess Wish
Wings: Una, Steampunk Wing
Hands: SLink, Rigged Mesh Hands
Nails: Adore & Abhor, Princess Destiny
Jewelry: League, Pearls & Lace
Dress: Junebug, Principessa (Fit for a Princess)

Poses: Lalochezia

Location: Nagare: Home of the Blue Lotus Clan

Light Settings: TOR, MIDDAY Precision Blue
Water Settings: Mirror Water

Photographed by Deoridhe Quandry
Post processing: Cropping, only

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Endless Movement Stopped

Sly Grins

It's been a couple of years since I last went to Spencer Art Museum; in 2010 I went there for the first Color Challenge I ever participated in, the color Gray in November. There's word it may be closing soon, which is why the abstract stylings of the sim are flooding across the decks of bloggers everywhere; sadly, nothing draws people more quickly than word that something is going away. It is an amazing sim, though, and difficult to capture in pictures in a way few sims on Second Life are - the ever-present motion means that things are always changing in a way static pictures simply don't do justice to. It's also so enormous that anything other than pure landscape pictures are sadly reductive, and the fun of bouncing around on a pink, stuffed chair is both fleeting and pleasant. I love the rusty, misshapen aspects of it, and the tiny details of platforms, cages, light-bulb trees, and long, misshapen arms. It is at once, mechanical, magical, and worn. I love it against a powerful color; it ends up being such a different look from my last look at this sim, and really shows the effect a good windlight can have.

Shadows, Light, and Movement

The larger pieces of my outfit are from this session of We <3 RP, which had a few shining items but seemed less diverse and combineable than in the past; I pulled together hair, dress, crown, and a few poses but most of what I picked up are other outfits, and so they will filter out as time goes on with other accessories. The crown was a gacha prize from Plastik, and a gacha of rare and enviable bliss; three sets of crowns, with rarity being based on color instead of style, which meant I ended up with a number of lovely crowns and even a rare or two - which left me feeling upbeat and cheerful. I perched the crown on top of this hair from Calico, is a fluffy concoction of curls which cascade over one shoulder and tuck perfectly behind my ear - a rarity in hair and deeply appreciated. Like a lot of other stores, she's moved to HUD based recoloring of her hair and includes roots with the basic set - something I took advantage of in this look, though I'm normally not a roots girl. I also quite liked her set of fades, which covered many natural hair colors as well as unnatural; I adore the variety of options.

The dress - the largest part of my look - is a gorgeous new creation from Evie's Closet that is reminiscent of the best of her gowns. The colors are rich and dull, the styling unique and lovely - I particularly like the triangle of fabric over the back of the hand, and how the fabric parts at the tips in a natural manner for the laced up style. The gold lattice work on the bodice is echoed in the bright gold of the underskirt - my one wish here would have been for two layers of mesh supporting the layering in the texture more powerfully, but even as a textured underskirt it seems to glow in the light. I also love how it cuts in on the side and back, the top smooth field of red lava from which the gold emerges and cascades to the hemline. Finally, some of the poses are from Elephante, which is a fantastic emerging post maker who makes naturalistic, interesting poses of a wide variety of types. The We <3 RP poses available are in the style of Fairy Tales - a warrior and a wicked Queen - but if you go to many other events open right now you'll find even more options available to you.

Wherefore Art Thou

( More pictures here. )

Credits: 

Skin: Izzie's, Irene
Hair: Calico, Francine (We <3 RP)
Crown: Plastik, Syl Crown (We <3 RP - Gacha)
Ears: Illusions, Seelie Ears
Eyes: De La Soul, Rainbow
Eyelashes 1: SLink, Mesh Lashes
Eyelashes 2: Flugeln Brise, 05-A
Eyeshadow: Mock, Glitter Pop Eshadow
Lipstick 1: Adore & Abhor, 13 Lips
Lipstick 2: Buzz, Gem Lips
Wings: Illusions, Apsara Wings
Hands & Feet: SLink, Rigged Mesh Hands & Feet
Nails: A:S:S, Mermaid
Necklace: Max Gossamer, Summer Ladybird (Arcade June 2013)
Dress: Evie's Closet, Iseult Gown (We <3 RP)

Pose: Elephante

Location: Spencer Art Museum
Light Settings: TOR, SCIFI Lydian Dinosaurs
Water Settings: Mirror Water

Photographed by Deoridhe Quandry
Post processing: Cropping, only

Monday, April 7, 2014

Monday Meme: Advice for Newbies Challenge

Highlit

Strawberry is back again, this time with an Advice for Newbie Challenge. I'm actually a semi-big newbie person. I carry gifts for newbies, and part of this blog - the Newbie Resources Page - is directly aimed at giving practical advice for how to get nice things and get around. They are some of my most visited pages, though usually I don't get much feedback on them and some of the sub-posts have been very difficult to keep up to date. They are more nuts and bolts, so for this list of five pieces of advice I'm going to focus on the more abstract issues of how to thrive in Second Life.
  1. Start with something you're interested in. Is it music, philosophy, dance, charity, creation, fashion, or art? Is it socializing, romance, self-expression, games, or exploration? The search on Second Life isn't the best, but if you search for any of those words you'll end up somewhere to begin, and you can search on the wider web as well. I'd honestly recommend looking in at least two directions - I started with fashion and philosophy - so that you don't become too isolated in a small sub-genre and loose sight of the larger picture of how diverse Second Life is. Don't try too many, though, because it can be easy to get overwhelmed; Second Life is largely about who you meet and who you are, so be mindful of both.

  2. Invest in a single persona at first. Second Life offers a lot of angles for re-imagining oneself, but to get the full effect, focus on one expression of yourself at first until you find your sea legs. This doesn't necessarily mean focus on one avatar form - I've known people who change avatars very often and with great glee, but that is part of the persona they are building, as someone transcendent of image. Spreading out all of one's aspects of persona across many accounts, however, can lead both to a shallow relationship with Second Life, but also make it much more likely that if something happens within that context, one has less to keep oneself in world.

  3. Make a second persona about the stuff you want to hide - your shadow. In addition to being a wonderful way of pursuing things one enjoys and doesn't mind people knowing about, it can also be a wonderful place to explore the personally taboo with less risk of danger or discovery. This may mean a gender change, an appearance change, or moving into communities one normally avoids, but Second Life offers unparalleled freedom to explore the external unknown and our inner darkness both.

  4. Remember that NPCs are few and far between. It's easy to begin to think of other avatars are players in our own stories, but the truth is that we are all the main characters in our own stories, and we weave in and out of each others' lives in ways both pleasurable and painful. One way to minimize the latter and emphasize the former is to not be so attached to ourselves as an isolated actor, and instead recognize that everyone has a lot going on and their own perspective which may or may not be equally valid to our own.

  5. Keep several things going at once, if you can. People have a tendency to mono-focus, even in a diverse world like Second Life, and that can lead to stagnation, isolation, and cynicism. Most of the time when people talk about how Second Life is no longer the wonderful thing it was, they mean that something hurt them in one of their experiences, and since that was their main or only experience and focus it soured the whole rest of Second Life for them. This souring is often relationship based, which is part of why I encourage people to make friends in different social groups instead of focusing on a single community, or even a single relationship. I've had hurtful things happen in relationships in Second Life, but the positive other experiences I had - some community based and some not - kept me going and enthusiastic.
Cascade of Toys

Everyone was new once, and I hope this helps you to be as successful and happy in Second Life as I have been.

( More pictures here. )