tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1108779732193340014.post8130624664718964709..comments2024-01-14T16:08:01.103-08:00Comments on Prim Dolls: Take a Moment, Take a Breath, EngageAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02619018164909616871noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1108779732193340014.post-6643760194947609282014-08-29T19:21:46.788-07:002014-08-29T19:21:46.788-07:00So that's how you handle your ADHD? That's...So that's how you handle your ADHD? That's kind of awesome - I can see how it would help limit stimulation. One of the working theories of why people with autism withdraw and limit physical contact is due to sensitivity that is far more extreme than neurotypical people, and my limited experience working with the kids seems to support that.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02619018164909616871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1108779732193340014.post-25883151319683855322014-08-29T12:41:59.801-07:002014-08-29T12:41:59.801-07:00It really is very interesting! :D I'm fascinat...It really is very interesting! :D I'm fascinated by your description of how you relate to people. I feel like, from the outside, you and I might come across similarly, but for different reasons. I get over-saturated with stimuli pretty easily, so I maintain this sort of chilled out, but kind of aloof and distanced stance most of the time ... mostly to keep from tripping over my own feet xDRuina Kesselhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07283283177073055109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1108779732193340014.post-37299600968172093952014-08-27T21:47:14.249-07:002014-08-27T21:47:14.249-07:00One of the working theories of human interactions ...One of the working theories of human interactions in sociology is that we're capable of relating to about a hundred and fifty other people with any degree of depth and empathy, and that in groups larger than that we start to need to stereotype rather than deal with individuals that have a great deal of nuance. <br /><br />I'd imagine someone who has a more limited attention span, and for whom focusing is more difficult (unless you snap into hyperfocus) that the number of people you can meaningfully relate to drips quite a bit, and how you relate to them becomes more scattershot over time.<br /><br />I actually have a problem of generalizing too early and focusing on abstracts more than people, which leads me to have a much slower relating to the people around me. It takes five to ten meetings and fairly in depth conversations for me to tell people apart and relate them to a name and history. It means I often come off as weird and indifferent or detached until that "you are this person" snaps in, and then I can become very personal and engaged. <br /><br />How people get to know each other and ourselves is so INTERESTING.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02619018164909616871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1108779732193340014.post-77022105959175291232014-08-27T06:27:30.162-07:002014-08-27T06:27:30.162-07:00I've been thinking a lot about sian's post...I've been thinking a lot about sian's post, the 'like everything'/'like nothing' articles they linked lately. One of the things I keep coming back to is how, the energy required to actually engage (rather than just 'like') necessarily limits how much interaction you can have in a day, and how many people you can engage with, simply because there are only so many hours in a day.<br /><br />I feel like your comments here actually help explain a problem I've observed in my own life, when taken in context with the fact that I have ADHD. I find it very hard to find and connect with people I genuinely care about, and your thoughts hit the nail on the head: the time, patience, and energy it takes to really stop and thoughtfully engage is a pretty intense level of commitment for my poor distractable brain. There are SO many interesting things, and SO many interesting people out there, that it really takes something extraordinary to keep me from getting distracted by the next interesting thing.<br /><br />I'm glad you share your thoughts with the rest of us plebians btw :)Ruina Kesselhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07283283177073055109noreply@blogger.com